Arranging Mum’s Funeral

Maybe about a week before Mum died, I messaged my friend Sophie whose Mum works as a funeral director. I asked Sophie if I could come round hers at some point and chat to her Mum about what to expect when planning a funeral, the “plans”, the average costs etc. At this point, Sophie andContinue reading “Arranging Mum’s Funeral”

She’s Dying – Part 4

The last part of this series of posts detailing Mum’s death – this may be slightly graphic for some readers. At one point in the morning, Mum started dribbling so I grabbed a tissue and went to wipe her face. Now, I had worked with children for 7 years at this point (nearly nine today),Continue reading “She’s Dying – Part 4”

She’s Dying (Part 3)

In this post I am going to describe and explain the events that led up to and include Mum’s death. Mum died at 3pm on Saturday 3rd March 2018. Mum was deteriorating and needed care all day. That care came in the form of my Mum’s partner and I, and the thrice daily visits fromContinue reading “She’s Dying (Part 3)”

She’s Dying (Part 2)

The thing that people don’t tell you (well didn’t tell me) about a terminal illness is how relentlessly invasive it is. That sentence sounds naïve. I don’t mean about how invasive it is to the person suffering it, that’s pretty obvious… it’s invasive for the people around them, for the home environment, for the finances,Continue reading “She’s Dying (Part 2)”

Guiding my Grief: Connecting with Others.

I started this blog because I had been really struggling to process and express my grief. This is going to be a different post than others previously, as it’s going to confront my grief and some of the ways in which I manage it. I’ll be doing more of this style post – almost asContinue reading “Guiding my Grief: Connecting with Others.”

Treatment, Surgery, and Strength.

As mentioned before, Mum got so, so weak whilst on chemo. She lost loads of weight, lost her hair, lost the core element of what made her her. She had to start using a walking stick and being helped up and down the stairs. We had to have a concrete step installed for the frontContinue reading “Treatment, Surgery, and Strength.”

Mum’s treatment plan

Mum’s treatment plan was six chemotherapy sessions, each spaced three weeks apart. She started them in January 2017, due to finish in mid-May. We had to attend a chemotherapy workshop beforehand – side effects, dos and don’ts, what to expect etc. It was a lot of information to take in, and we had lots ofContinue reading “Mum’s treatment plan”